Studying is Vital

Couples most especially women, I will advice you to please study your spouse and know what they really expect from the marriage, this is going to go a long way making the marriage blissful and worthwhile. I am saying this because a lot of couples these days assume a lot, especially what is not in the books and also like to do follow-follow and that can never work in your marriage. That it worked for marriage and couple A does not mean it will work for you or another marriage. Like I have said before now on this group that there is no two marriages that are the same or even close to been alike. 

There might be similarities in the gender, but these genders in that marriage from different backgrounds, can never show off any form of similarities. You can look, learn and weigh the options properly to know if really it will work. See how you can infuse certain things you have learned tactically in your home and see how it plays out, but comparing your marriage or spouse to another person is way out and not welcomed at all or even assuming what is not is disastrous. Learn to take your spouse as you see them each day, as everyday can birth a new thing.


I have explained before now as well that every individual is very different, why? Because apart from the fact that they come from different parents biologically, no individual was ever molded, structured and journeyed for the same direction., and like my beloved DADA will say, your journey in life will determine who you take along with you. What therefore I am trying to say by cutting the long story short is that comparing your spouse and marriage to the next person's own can build an on ending issue in the marriage that will take forever fixing, afterall you are not journeying the same direction you are comparing the person with.


Rather I will say when you get married, pray before taking any decision what so ever it is, study your spouse daily, get to know what will make them happy, sad, angry, frustrated, etc. Even though you did that before marriage and during the courtship process, but in marriage you start seeing some new developments too, so you take note of it which is still studying. Do not buy a television and not ask your spouse to say how they feel about you getting that television and what they think, whether directly or indirectly. Their answer will tell you your next move always.


So please never be faster than your shadow. A particular spouse may be glad you did and indirectly commend you, while another kind of spouse may make you pay for it for the rest of your life because you think you know it all. Therefore Pray, think, communicate your ideas, agree on it, pray again and move and make sure you are both on the same page, so that he/she especially he, will not hold you responsible for the rest of your life. Have a sound weekend my Pearl Jewels. ‪#‎PJO‬#.