Sought yourself out.

Women if you know you cannot cope with all the daily activities in your home, please get an assistance and help, probably a maid, nanny etc. That is the help I mean. Men please, in order to fulfil all what she needs to do for you, she needs a help around the house, so that will require your spending for such or doing it yourself, and if you choose to do it yourself, then it has to be totally. That is the only way she can fulfil her most important rights to you (S*X) without any complain.

Now for some women who has all the help they need and yet still feel like neglecting their spouse needs, then you are been wicked and the consequences for such an act is always not far. For Men that think that it is an opportunity to misbehave with the help around the house. Hmmmmmmm, how condescending can that be? Please step out and misbehave rather than do that under her very nose, that is also very wicked, degrading and heartless and only God can handle that matter. You see my Darling, we cannot talk about a man's misbehavior without talking about how the woman indirectly or directly contributing to his behavior and vice-versa. Most spouse always justify their act and blame the other spouse, forgetting to know that you are both humans and wired in a particular way.


I am not encouraging a man to go ahead and misbehave to his wife, having extra marital affairs and beating her up. No way, but like I tell most women, before you conclude about your husband's ways, sit down thoroughly and examine your attitude towards the marriage and towards your spouse. Do a reality check on yourself to your husband and his needs and men do like wise. Do not just go about castigating your spouse like they are some wicked beings, forgetting to know that you are the agent to bringing out the wrong things in them.


Always note my Pearl Jewels that your attitude towards your spouse creates and birth new behavior in your partner except for cases where the person has been like that and that should have been seen before saying I do. No matter how a person tries to hide his/her character towards you, a pinch of it will always show, and like I tell my Pearls, please always multiply the pinch you see as that will help you in your decision later in life, especially the ladies to your boyfriend. Do not ever give an excuse for what can always be fixed to give you a better result, and make sure you fix it too.
Therefore my talking about a help at the beginning is to make you understand that your action in everything you do in the marriage can birth a new behaviour in your spouse. So think always before misbehaving both Male and Female. Have a fruitful Tuesday, till I drop my next post on Friday. Stay blessed and happy always. ‪#‎PJO‬#