ITK's (I too Know)

Couples are supposed to tell their spouse what they are doing wrong that they don't like. Any man or woman that you cannot tell how you feel during courtship is not worthy to be married just yet, because marriage is not for ITK's (I too know). It is an ever lasting institution where you get to learn daily about your spouse and this is one of the ways which you can have a long-sustainable marriage, i.e your ability and willingness to learn.


Now as couples, do not assume that your spouse already know certain things you expect from them, that is why you have to keep telling them their wrong and how it came across to you, they will in turn tell you how and why they did it, showing their real intent to the matter, not an intention to hurt you. This is also where effective communication comes to play and also maturity in addressing issues. In telling your spouse anything they did wrong, do not ever come with a mindset on how they will answer or with a defence, because that defence will never allow you listen to what they are saying.

I have noticed that some spouses are just hearers and not listeners, they assume they got you, but in the real sense they never did, because they never listened to you and due to this act, they unconsciously repeat the same thing you have been telling them about, thereby making them insensitive to you. Now if you are already married and have a spouse behaving like this, then you have to look for a way to pass your message across in the best possible way for them to get it effectively and so you can enjoy and have a peace in your home. Because if you have a spouse who learns to please you on certain behavioral traits you want to see in them, you are most likely to stay put, giving them many chances to get better with time, as you have seen their improvements overtime. This from my personal survey has proven effective, because it's like having hope. Have a beautiful week my Pearl Jewels. ‪#‎PJO‬#