Now back to our ingredients. I will be addressing FORGIVENESS as one
of the strongest and unavoidable ingredients for a successful marriage
as it is like salt in a food.
What is Forgiveness?
Psychologist generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment/ ill feelings/ vengeance towards a person who has harmed you, "regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness".
What is Forgiveness?
Psychologist generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment/ ill feelings/ vengeance towards a person who has harmed you, "regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness".
Can you see the last part of this definition, regardless of whether
they actually deserve your forgiveness, is what is needed in every home/
marriage. The truth is most of your spouses may not deserve your
forgiveness, but really who are you to be looking for who deserves your
forgiveness and who does not. If God was to look at every thing you did
daily, do you think you deserve his forgiveness too?
Now see, my dear couples, to have an effective long and sustainable marriage, you need to apply forgiveness always when necessary because no one is perfect, and one way or the other needs forgiveness at any point in time. Now some might say Haba Nene he / she has cheated on me, do I forgive that. How can I look them into their face, how can I ever do that and that.
The thing is that, it is never going to be easy to forgive some very strong and strange acts / actions, our spouse throw at us, but it is necessary to and that is where the need for AGAPE LOVE comes in. Look at your kids and have a reason to stay. Some of you might say oh good, we do not have children yet, but you are married is what I throw back. Regardless of the fact that you do not have kids yet, as long as you are married, then it is signed, sealed and settled. Yes you might decide to punish him for a while, but trust me it's not necessary and only but for a while and like a child, make them know why you are doing what you are doing.
If you have a spouse that takes your forgiveness for granted, then you should have a 3rd party person you can always report them to that they "respect and fear", because some spouses are too quick to jump out of the marriage and blame their spouse for what they did wrong, forgetting that in one way or the other they must have contributed to making the act unforgivable to them.
My Pearl Jewels I can go on and on about forgiveness,because it is highly essential for the growth and success of every marriage and should not be lacking in any home. Have a blessed, peaceful and forgivable day my Pearl Jewels. #PJO #
Now see, my dear couples, to have an effective long and sustainable marriage, you need to apply forgiveness always when necessary because no one is perfect, and one way or the other needs forgiveness at any point in time. Now some might say Haba Nene he / she has cheated on me, do I forgive that. How can I look them into their face, how can I ever do that and that.
The thing is that, it is never going to be easy to forgive some very strong and strange acts / actions, our spouse throw at us, but it is necessary to and that is where the need for AGAPE LOVE comes in. Look at your kids and have a reason to stay. Some of you might say oh good, we do not have children yet, but you are married is what I throw back. Regardless of the fact that you do not have kids yet, as long as you are married, then it is signed, sealed and settled. Yes you might decide to punish him for a while, but trust me it's not necessary and only but for a while and like a child, make them know why you are doing what you are doing.
If you have a spouse that takes your forgiveness for granted, then you should have a 3rd party person you can always report them to that they "respect and fear", because some spouses are too quick to jump out of the marriage and blame their spouse for what they did wrong, forgetting that in one way or the other they must have contributed to making the act unforgivable to them.
My Pearl Jewels I can go on and on about forgiveness,because it is highly essential for the growth and success of every marriage and should not be lacking in any home. Have a blessed, peaceful and forgivable day my Pearl Jewels. #PJO #
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