Knowledge not Love

Do you know my Pearl Jewels that LOVE does not keep your marriage, Knowledge keeps your marriage. Love is necessary though but all there is. I was listening to my Late Mentor and all he said made so much sense, so I will break it down the best possible way I can.

Now the question I will ask is What is Love?
Love is a variety of different feelings, states and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection to pleasure. It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment. 

What you know

Today I will start by asking what is knowledge? Knowledge is a familiarity awareness or understanding of someone or something, such as facts, information, description or skills which is acquired through experience or education by perceiving, discovering, or learning.

Marriages are Fragile

There is a quote I saw that says " Marriages are fragile. They must be nurtured and protected if they are to survive a lifetime". What I will say is that marriages are indeed for a life time and not for 1 year or 2. Now what I believe this quote should teach is that as a spouse to another spouse, you should learn to handle your spouse properly, you should be a learner, giver, forgiver, lover, servant, etc as much as you can fill the blanks with. Your spouse is fragile whether you believe it or not is the truth. How you treat them matters a lot. Some people just feel because they are married, is the time for them to relax and do things that suite just them alone and this is a very wrong notion. 

God Centered Marriage

From today I will start a series titled, ingredients for a successful marriage, where I will take one ingredient per day till I am done. Therefore I would start with.

1) God centered marriage: Yes finally I am here. I know that this NGO is not religion bound in any way, but you see I have a source from where all these write-ups come from daily and God is the source, the holy spirit my teacher and Christ my Leader.

Passion and Commitment

Today will be on Passion and commitment as one of the successful ingredient for marriage.

What is Passion?
Passion is a "strong desire" for anything or when you put "more energy" into something than is required to do it. It is more than just enthusiasm or excitement.
Passion is "ambition" that is materialized into action to put as much heart, mind, body and soul into something as is possible, which is where I will be addressing from.

Compromise

Today's ingredient is COMPROMISE which according to Cambridge Dictionary is an agreement in which the people involved reduced to their demands or change their opinion in order to agree. This to me is very clear and explicit enough. Therefore as couples, I would say that you should learn to agree on each others principles/laws sometimes, learning to give way for your spouse's opinion too.

Intimacy

Good morning My pear Jewels, today I will try and be addressing "intimacy" as one of the ingredients for a God ordained marriage. I try giving an English meaning and definition to most of these ingredients so that explanations can be easier, if not you can go on and on over a particular tip and it might just be difficult to be gotten.

Communication

Communication is one topic I have always referred to for a long-sustainable relationship. Therefore coming as an ingredient should not be surprising, rather expected and also a very vital ingredient too. Therefore like my trend has been I will ask,

What is Communication?

Trust

Today will be on trust as an ingredient to a successful marriage. Lack of Trust as we all know can pull down any form of Relationship how much more a marriage. Please whoever has trust issues, I will advice to hang on there before tieing the knot with anyone, because if your trust issues is brought to matrimony then your spouse is in deep hot Afang soup.

Lies

I beg to differ from our ingredients to somethings a bit and go back to where we stopped later. Now something just recently came up concerning a man lieing and leaving with another woman that is not his wife, claiming he has no child and all in the event to having or making money or whatever it is I really can't and have not finished deducing yet, but all I think I have to say here and advice from that situation to my Pearl Jewels most especially the ladies is that please put your ears to the ground, pay attention to certain details that can expose a thief, because after sometimes he would run off, because he is either trying to shuttle between two homes or he has gotten what he wanted or something.

Forgiveness

Now back to our ingredients. I will be addressing FORGIVENESS as one of the strongest and unavoidable ingredients for a successful marriage as it is like salt in a food.

What is Forgiveness?
Psychologist generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment/ ill feelings/ vengeance towards a person who has harmed you, "regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness".

Marital Help

Please my Pearl Jewels there are times when the going gets really tough in your marriage, so I will advise you to seek help at that point. There is nothing that cannot be worked out between you both, except you don't want to make it work. There are mistaken decisions you took in your life that led to the marriage you happened to find yourself in, but instead of working it out you are seeking a Divorce. For Christ sake who told you that getting a divorce will fix anything. It will to me only make you a confused and angry dog seeking for whom to bite, except it was beyond your control any ways, and that is why marrying the right person is key, so that it won't be beyond your control.

Selflessness

Next will be on selflessness, which means having no concern for self. Selflessness is also the quality of not putting yourself first but willing to give your time,money and effort etc.
Wow, how many couples are selfless in their homes and when I say couples I mean both the man and woman, especially the men. Selfishness in men is way higher than in women and I do not say this because I am a woman, but it is what I have come to see evident in most homes between a man and a woman, leaving kids yet out of the equation.

Friendship

Today will be on friendship. Hmmmmmm, yes friendship is a topic some men hate, claiming that their wives take advantage of the situation by been friends with them. Now instead of defining friendship, I will ask what do best friends do because it's the best friends part i will be focusing on, seems that is what couples should be amongst themselves, not only mere friends. so i will be listing a few, directly from searched sources and worked by me

Husbands, Wives and Sight

My Pearl Jewels husbands, please it is important to note that a woman's body, appetite etc is likely to change after marriage, especially after and during the child bearing process. Therefore, I will advice that after delivery, you can tell her what she should do to improve herself and the relationship, but please do not be hard, unreasonable and unrealistic about it with her. If she just had a baby, then give her time to work on herself, but I repeat be reasonable please.

LOVE!!LOVE!!LOVE

1. Love suffers long and is kind.
2. Love does not envy.
3. Love does not parade itself.
4. Love is not puffed up.
5. Love does not behave rudely.
6. Love does not seek it's own always.
7. Love is not provoked.
8. Love thinks no evil.
9. Love does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in truth.
10. Love bears all things, believes all things, hope all things.
11. Love endures all things
12. Love never fails.

Men earn your respect

Wow men, we understand that a woman should be submissive, respect you, and all that stuff. We understand that you are the head of the home and I believe no woman is fighting that out with you. It is important therefore to note that respect is earned not forced. You can keep shouting her down and speaking to her like you are talking to a maid and expect her to keep been timid because you are the head of the home and must submit. Hmmmmmm, okay now, let's see how far you can go with that.

Past Issues

My sweet single ladies and gentlemen, if you are in a relationship where your partner keeps rubbing in your past to your face, you might really want to think about it, especially things that happened when you both were involved with each other. Then there is a tendency that he would hold you accountable for every and anything wrong you do in the future and that may be dangerous for your marriage together.

ITK's (I too Know)

Couples are supposed to tell their spouse what they are doing wrong that they don't like. Any man or woman that you cannot tell how you feel during courtship is not worthy to be married just yet, because marriage is not for ITK's (I too know). It is an ever lasting institution where you get to learn daily about your spouse and this is one of the ways which you can have a long-sustainable marriage, i.e your ability and willingness to learn.


Now as couples, do not assume that your spouse already know certain things you expect from them, that is why you have to keep telling them their wrong and how it came across to you, they will in turn tell you how and why they did it, showing their real intent to the matter, not an intention to hurt you. This is also where effective communication comes to play and also maturity in addressing issues. In telling your spouse anything they did wrong, do not ever come with a mindset on how they will answer or with a defence, because that defence will never allow you listen to what they are saying.

I have noticed that some spouses are just hearers and not listeners, they assume they got you, but in the real sense they never did, because they never listened to you and due to this act, they unconsciously repeat the same thing you have been telling them about, thereby making them insensitive to you. Now if you are already married and have a spouse behaving like this, then you have to look for a way to pass your message across in the best possible way for them to get it effectively and so you can enjoy and have a peace in your home. Because if you have a spouse who learns to please you on certain behavioral traits you want to see in them, you are most likely to stay put, giving them many chances to get better with time, as you have seen their improvements overtime. This from my personal survey has proven effective, because it's like having hope. Have a beautiful week my Pearl Jewels. ‪#‎PJO‬#

Fake Guys

My single Pearl Jewels, there is something that happened recently and I felt I should share. Any guy beating around the bush always, coming up with one excuse or the other concerning your relationships and vice-versa is not a serious person or has something up their sleeve. A person who really wants you and needs you will do anything and everything to have and keep you.


Some other people may just do everything to have you because of your wealth or something they intend to benefit from and once they have gotten it, they begin to misbehave, treating you like trash. Therefore my Pearl Jewels, please pay attention to details every time in your relationship, because that is the only time you will be able to make a right decision you will not live to regret.

Do not allow desperation to give you a later regret. Some are not even desperate, but eager to get married. I say they are not desperate because they have time to wait and make the right choice, rather the marriage will be catching them as if they will not be there forever. Remember if you rush in, you will rush out. Therefore calm down, plan, pray, set your principles, Determine what to see and expect, pray again and make your choice wisely and in the end you will be glad you took your time. Have a blessed day my Pearl Jewels. ‪#‎PJO‬#

Hope

How much hope have you given your home, how hopeful are you about your spouse, how hopeful are you on the marriage. Some of you just think that when you get married, everything should just be running on rails for you. Who told you that is how it is, or that is what usually happens. You do not even push hard to saving your marriage, some people say that they have tried all they know to do to save the situation, but you see, I thank God it is all you tried, not all that there is to be done.

If you search even more, you will find out that there are worse cases than yours, yet they are pushing very hard and making it work. Yes I agree that your marriage should be enjoyed not endured. To enjoy your marriage, you need to make some sacrifices and do some work too, but No, you just want to sit down and let it fall on you, that is not so, neither is it okay. You also forget to know that it was you that choose the path for yourself without consulting anyone, not even God, and now you just expect everything to be just fine. My darling, that does not work out like that. With the kind of decision you took, you really have to be extra patient in that marriage.


Oh dear, if you are not patient enough for the successful running of your home, then grow it. I mean grow your patience level to a 100%, if you want to succeed in your home, because trust me Darling, if it is small, you are bound to NAG, because you will see everything wrong and annoying to you, seems it is not going your way or as planned. Thereby building and growing an evil seed in your heart that will definitely lure you to Divorce.


My Darling Pearl Jewels, do you know that Divorce is not planned, it just happens and this can be due to lack of patience, hope etc in your home, allowing wrong seeds to germinate in your heart which will eventually cause a crack in the marriage and once water keeps going into the crack (More developed issues), then it will give way completely. This is exactly what happens in most homes of Divorce. So please my Darling and Sweet Pearl Jewels, avoid this gradual cracks in your homes. Do not break the edge, and do not ever forget to pray effectively as that is a sure way to fix every crack Permanently, together with all I advice on. Have a wonderful and Peaceful Friday. ‪#‎PJO‬#

Studying is Vital

Couples most especially women, I will advice you to please study your spouse and know what they really expect from the marriage, this is going to go a long way making the marriage blissful and worthwhile. I am saying this because a lot of couples these days assume a lot, especially what is not in the books and also like to do follow-follow and that can never work in your marriage. That it worked for marriage and couple A does not mean it will work for you or another marriage. Like I have said before now on this group that there is no two marriages that are the same or even close to been alike. 

There might be similarities in the gender, but these genders in that marriage from different backgrounds, can never show off any form of similarities. You can look, learn and weigh the options properly to know if really it will work. See how you can infuse certain things you have learned tactically in your home and see how it plays out, but comparing your marriage or spouse to another person is way out and not welcomed at all or even assuming what is not is disastrous. Learn to take your spouse as you see them each day, as everyday can birth a new thing.


I have explained before now as well that every individual is very different, why? Because apart from the fact that they come from different parents biologically, no individual was ever molded, structured and journeyed for the same direction., and like my beloved DADA will say, your journey in life will determine who you take along with you. What therefore I am trying to say by cutting the long story short is that comparing your spouse and marriage to the next person's own can build an on ending issue in the marriage that will take forever fixing, afterall you are not journeying the same direction you are comparing the person with.


Rather I will say when you get married, pray before taking any decision what so ever it is, study your spouse daily, get to know what will make them happy, sad, angry, frustrated, etc. Even though you did that before marriage and during the courtship process, but in marriage you start seeing some new developments too, so you take note of it which is still studying. Do not buy a television and not ask your spouse to say how they feel about you getting that television and what they think, whether directly or indirectly. Their answer will tell you your next move always.


So please never be faster than your shadow. A particular spouse may be glad you did and indirectly commend you, while another kind of spouse may make you pay for it for the rest of your life because you think you know it all. Therefore Pray, think, communicate your ideas, agree on it, pray again and move and make sure you are both on the same page, so that he/she especially he, will not hold you responsible for the rest of your life. Have a sound weekend my Pearl Jewels. ‪#‎PJO‬#.

Happiness, your personal role in Marriage and Relationship.

In Life my Pearl Jewels, it is important to note that you are responsible for your happiness in essence you are the one to make yourself happy and not any man or woman. Most times I noticed that some ladies date a guy with all their strength and brain, that even when the guy is mistreating them, they still stay put in the relationship claiming they love the guy. For Christ sake what will happen to them when they get married to that same guy?


The most annoying part is that they say things like I love him so much, that I cannot do without him, but few years after or months after, they all of a sudden cannot take it anymore. Yet it is the same man you cannot live without. Please how can you justify both statements? Where is the professed Love with no end gone to all of a sudden.

My darling, please stop deceiving yourself that you love a guy who constantly beats you and plays down on your emotions and make you feel low of yourself. A guy who always puts you to the ground indirectly, both in words and action is not ready and worthy to walk you down that aisle, so please stop deceiving yourself. It cannot work, so you better leave that relationship now and do not think of saying he would change because he would only get worse once you get married to him trust me.


I am not trying to scare you and all that, I only want the best for you and want you to live a happy ever after life, thereby avoiding Divorce in your history. If the right decisions are made before marriage, I would have therefore achieved my aim and assignment. Always remember the Popular saying that a broken engagement or relationship is better than a broken marriage. Have an increased week ever my most esteemed Pearl Jewels. ‪#‎PJO‬#

Sought yourself out.

Women if you know you cannot cope with all the daily activities in your home, please get an assistance and help, probably a maid, nanny etc. That is the help I mean. Men please, in order to fulfil all what she needs to do for you, she needs a help around the house, so that will require your spending for such or doing it yourself, and if you choose to do it yourself, then it has to be totally. That is the only way she can fulfil her most important rights to you (S*X) without any complain.

Now for some women who has all the help they need and yet still feel like neglecting their spouse needs, then you are been wicked and the consequences for such an act is always not far. For Men that think that it is an opportunity to misbehave with the help around the house. Hmmmmmmm, how condescending can that be? Please step out and misbehave rather than do that under her very nose, that is also very wicked, degrading and heartless and only God can handle that matter. You see my Darling, we cannot talk about a man's misbehavior without talking about how the woman indirectly or directly contributing to his behavior and vice-versa. Most spouse always justify their act and blame the other spouse, forgetting to know that you are both humans and wired in a particular way.


I am not encouraging a man to go ahead and misbehave to his wife, having extra marital affairs and beating her up. No way, but like I tell most women, before you conclude about your husband's ways, sit down thoroughly and examine your attitude towards the marriage and towards your spouse. Do a reality check on yourself to your husband and his needs and men do like wise. Do not just go about castigating your spouse like they are some wicked beings, forgetting to know that you are the agent to bringing out the wrong things in them.


Always note my Pearl Jewels that your attitude towards your spouse creates and birth new behavior in your partner except for cases where the person has been like that and that should have been seen before saying I do. No matter how a person tries to hide his/her character towards you, a pinch of it will always show, and like I tell my Pearls, please always multiply the pinch you see as that will help you in your decision later in life, especially the ladies to your boyfriend. Do not ever give an excuse for what can always be fixed to give you a better result, and make sure you fix it too.
Therefore my talking about a help at the beginning is to make you understand that your action in everything you do in the marriage can birth a new behaviour in your spouse. So think always before misbehaving both Male and Female. Have a fruitful Tuesday, till I drop my next post on Friday. Stay blessed and happy always. ‪#‎PJO‬#

Claims

Beautiful Friday my Pearl Jewels. Sometimes I wonder why some women complain of their husband's infidelity and having other women when they are not ready to do the needful. How can a woman be claiming what I do not know and yet still complain her husband is cheating on her. The most annoying part is that when you tell them, they refuse to listen and even the husband sef loves you so much that he tells you what he expects especially when going out, yet you choose what you feel like doing.

OMG, who would not like his wife to look very attractive in public especially if your husband happens to be a public figure or even a man that loves Fashion. Please women get your acts right and in place. Do not give your husband a reason to cheat on you. Even if he does, you are justified that once he is caught, he has nothing to say. Why will your husband touch you and make love to you when you look and smell funny. Some women are so dirty that even your fellow lady feels like throwing up.


Please women do not be so dumb that you cannot use your head and expect a miracle to happen in your homes, when all the man gets from you is a haggard looking nature, always busy doing nothing. Put yourselves together, act right, think fast, be hot and decent, constantly remain appealing to his eye, be prayerful to avoid strange women around him, but make sure you play your part. Have a wonderful Friday my wonderful Pearl Jewels. ‪#‎PJO‬#

Angry Wives

Women please no matter how angry you get, never ever hit your husband either by giving him a slap across the face or touching him hard especially in the hit of an argument or something as it will take God for any man not to retaliate worse of all a man who fears no one. I say this because a woman specifically came crying that her husband beats her and that she was tired of the marriage and all that. Knowing her well enough, I asked her what she usually do to her husband to warrant a beat and she says he gets angry easily etc, giving some very flimsy excuse that was not in the books, deliberately avoiding her wrongs and stating mostly her husband's fault. I tried calming her down and asking to meet with her husband which she deliberately refused, claiming she does not think she can go on,painting herself very innocent.

Knowing myself not wanting to get in between a couple's fight and also not so sure of her story (instincts), I approached her husband who happens to be a friend too and one gist led to another and he opened up, saying stuffs like I do not enjoy beating my wife, but do you believe that in the heat of an argument, she always hits me and at the 2nd to 3rd slap I find myself retaliating. I laughed in my heart and told him that no matter what happens he should not retaliate, once she slaps him once, he should leave the house and he immediately said she would not allow him, then I told him that the strength he uses to pounce on her he should use it instead to carefully pack her and dump her in a corner of the house and take off, and other things he can do to manage the situation. He also told me he had warned her several times, but she would not listen, so he was tired too and wants out. Lieing is some women's problem and will address that later in this group.


Now my Pearl Jewels, do you see how annoying some women can get. For heaven's sake why will you slap a man and not even see anything wrong with it and still lie about it. The little baby will grow up in a nasty environment, no form of respect etc. Haba!! Haba!! Haba!! My darlings, please never hit a man, no matter what. If he annoys you so bad and you know you have a bad temper, then please go to the toilet and cry it out or go out and scream it out. Never ever ever hit a man because you will not like the outcome, trust me. Then you can always tell your husband to help your anger.


For other women who are friends to some married women who bring issues to you, be careful how you contribute to other people's marital issues, because some women are just yeye liars and what they stand to gain in running their husband down is what I am yet to discover, but till then, be careful and know what you say. Have a wonderful weekend my priceless Pearls. ‪#‎PJO‬#.

Pretence and Relationship

My single Pearl Jewels, please and please I beg you to be yourself in any and every relationship you find yourself as I have come to realise that ladies these days are so fake, been what they are not, pretending unnecessarily and it's so irritating and annoying.


One man's food as always said is another man's poison also applies seriously in relationships. Even if been yourself takes away some men from you, it is that same thing that will attract the next right fellow to you. This does not mean you will have terrible characters and say Nene said you should be your self, instead be justified on every act of being yourself. 

Now ladies in trying to be yourself in any relationship, never ever start what you cannot finish. If you start washing a man's clothes before marriage, please note that those are some of the things he saw that made him walk you down the aisle. Do not think you will get married and all of a sudden stop washing his clothes. That is a huge lie and mistake you will be doing to yourself, because he will walk away to the next lady claiming that you changed a great deal after marriage and cannot have any more changes. This is just one scenario I painted, you can do the remaining maths as to other things. In essence just like the old adage that says 'As you lay your bed, so you shall lie on it', I translate to say the hand with which you use in starting your relationship and courtship will determine how your marriage is going to go, because you will have no other option, but to keep laying on that bed the exact way you have laid, i.e you will have no option but to keep doing what you started expect the man is a good man, he will bear and stay.


Therefore use your tongue to count your teeth. This is to say what you want to see and experience can only be created by you and no one else. So if you pretend to be a good cook and call your friend to do the cooking instead of learning, then you should know what to expect. I can go on and on, but please ladies be yourself, never pretend during courtship both male and female, but especially females, do not be A today in courtship and be D in marriage. This is another thing that destroys hope and throw Men especially off balance. Have the best week ever my Sweet Pearl Jewels. ‪#‎PJO‬#

Men and the House

Men your turn, I have been up with the ladies for a while and I think it's time to face you guys now. My Dada will say that a Husband is the HOUSE-BAND. Now I am going to break that down a little bit. Being a house-band means you should be the exact person to bring your house together using the band. The size and type of band with which you use in achieving that will matter a lot. You can decide to use the thread to band your household or a rubber-band which we all know, so I will use that for my illustration. Have it at the back of your mind that when using a rubber-band, it has to be thick enough for the particular House and people in it you intend to hold, just exactly the way a rubber-band acts, with the person tieing the rubber band as the husband.


Now if you use a tiny rubber-band for a big issue/stuff it will definitely cut, making the banding unsuccessful, but if you use a thick and big rubber-band that is also more than one, then it's going to hold it for a long time. But you see, you still have to change the rubber-band with time, so it does not still cut or give way too. Now that is the exact duty of the Husband in the house-hold. This is part of what makes you a man. While growing up, I heard our mothers and most people say things like it is a woman that holds the home. Well I am here to differ from that saying big time. It is highly NOT scriptural and therefore I stand against it. Our mothers used that to keep their homes due to the ill-mannered and unconcerned ways of our fathers. In-fact this is another issue that is destroying marriages today, because ladies do not want to be like their mothers anymore as they saw their mother's cry most times and to them, it never paid off.


I am just trying to cut my usual long story short to say to my AweZome Pearl Jewels Men that Please if you are not ready to up-hold your home strong in all ways, take all the shock etc, be a house-band like my Dada says, take care of the needs in and out of the house etc, be emotionally sound to know how to speak to a woman, then please stay single, because you are not ready for marriage just yet. Been a Man is not a day's job and it entails a lot, but I have noticed that most men today shy away from doing a lot and shifting it to women. In-fact they have now categorized it as women's duty these days, and it's so irritating and annoying.


If your aim of getting married is to have someone take care of you alone, while you sit there growing tummy and getting fat everyday, while your wife lack and loose strength daily, then please stay single. Have you noticed that women die so easily these days, while the men go on and re-marry. It is not in the place of a woman to baby sit you the man and all you do is tell her how much you are the head of the home and should be respected. The truth is that Respect is earned not forced as I have said before.


For everything you want and expect from your wife, you should be the initiator of it all. If you want your wife to take care of your needs, do that first, if you want her to respect and reverence you, you have to HONOR her first and trust me, then and only then are you ready for marriage and then and only then will you have a beautiful home. Make it easier for her and she will easily follow. That is exactly how God wanted it and still wants the home to be. Have an AweZome day, and stay favored always. ‪#‎PJO‬#

All your need in life can be found in your wife.

Men!!Men!!Men, do you know that to get all what you need and want is all evident in your wife? The wife of your youth. I came across a reading recently and it answered all my questions and survey research about why some men are so blessed and others are not. I know I must have said so before on this group, but I think I need to say it better. Men do you know that you need to HONOR your wives and when I mean HONOR, I mean HONOR.


Now what is HONOR?
The different dictionaries gave a million meanings to it, but I will state the few I can.
1. Honor means high respect, great esteem, Public esteem, etc
2. Honor means the quality of knowing and doing what is morally right
3. Honor means to regard with great respect
4. Honor means to fulfil an obligation or keep an agreement.
5. It also means honesty, fairness or integrity
6. It also means to place value on someone
7. Honor means to SUBMIT
I can go on and on defining the word Honor because the definition is indeed so much. Wow men, how many of you can honor your wives, be realistic with yourselves. First been faithful to your wife is honoring her, not talking down your wife amongst your friends is honoring her, not playing down on her emotions is honoring her. Helping her around the house with chores is honoring her, speaking to your wife with so much respect, not like a maid is honoring her, submitting to her is honoring too. Many men will say this woman has come with this submitting thing again, but thank God I have said it before that submission does not make you a weakly person, it makes you a real man instead. You are showing her how to respect and submit, thereby leading by example.


A lot of you men complain that your wife NAGS, my question to you today is have you checked your actions and activities towards her, to determine the cause of her Nagging, because the truth is that something indeed triggers the NAG in her, she will not just stay and want to run her mouth rough. It's not like am encouraging her to NAG but realistically speaking, there is always a resultant effect to every action, which woman will still NAG after her husband has been so loving, helping and honoring to her?Trust me Men, NONE. Therefore I put it to you today to check your ways as a man, check your speech, mode of conduct, actions etc and see where and how you can indeed make adjustments for the sake of your marriage. Just try it out and watch her follow. Do not mind those friends of yours that say you are less of a man when you do that, because they may even be worse, trying to instill in others what they cannot do.


Like I said before, you need to initiate every good character and attribute you expect to see in your wife and watch how things turn out for the better. The truth most men do not know is that we women are natural followers to beautiful things and that is exactly how God built us. So exhibit and put forth the good and do not just stop there oh, continue doing it, because the minute you stop, she too will stop and you go back to square one. So make it a life style for living daily and you will enjoy your marriage and home and most importantly you as a man will be blessed for honoring your wife. Have a fun-filled Friday my wonderful Pearl Jewels. I love you all, just telling you the home truth to make you happy in marriage, no hate nor judgement.‪#‎PJO‬#

Mean and Rude Men.

My God, why will a man be so mean to his wife. Is it because you are older than her or what? Why on earth will you talk to your wife like you are talking to some maid you picked from across the street? What on earth has she done to warrant such anger from you? Have you not done worse? What do you think she is, a toy? Kia men, drop your pride and lead by example if that woman has done something so bad to you that you cannot tolerate, why not tell her straight on than treat her like some piss of shit.


Some stories and some women experiences with their husband are so sorry that you will feel like slapping the man. I know some women are talkative or whatever I do not know, but as a man you have no right to treat her that way. Why will you tell a woman that the kids she gave you are not yours and even further tried to make a point with a DNA test. It's good oh, but the kids have been with you since birth till about 8-10 years and all of a sudden they are not yours, but thank God for DNA testing, if not I am so sure if there was none, what some men will do, only God knows oh. Instead of putting her through so much emotional struggles, why not go on and bring the next lady and answer to God on how you treated the wife of your youth.


Women that is why I always insist on prayers, because this sounds very fishy to me. There are some desperado's among st your friends, colleagues, etc that will do anything to take your man. Please pray with all the fire you have inside of you. The only thing that will make a man turn into a beast after more than 8 years of marriage can only be very fishy, except maybe he has been pretending all along, which also brings me to say that indeed it's not only women that pretend, men do too, so note.
The history or story is a long one, but all I am trying to say here is that if you have fallen out of love or place with your wife, probably send her and the kids on a vacation or travel yourself and then you will appreciate her more. Do not do that to create space for your MISTRESS oh, or better still put your mistress through a test that will make her leave you, seems she has turned your head so well that your wife of beautiful beginnings now irritate you, but remember that this mistress only came around and became a strong hold to you after you got that multi-billion contract and money, while your kids and wife were with you when you were drinking garri. So you might want to have a heart to consider that first before taking a rash step of a Divorce.


Men please take your homes seriously do not expect these women to keep struggling to make their husband's happy, while you the house-band pay no attention nor make any effort sef. Please Men note that it is you that God will ask questions about how you handled your family and not your wives, so remove that rubbish idea in your head that it is your wives duty to keep your home. I am saying it again oh. A word they say is enough for the wise. Therefore have a Splendid week ahead my Pearl Jewels. ‪#‎PJO‬#

Openess amongst couples

Couples please leave your spouse phone and social media's privacy for them alone, especially women. It is exactly what you are looking for that you are most likely to see, both the real and fake one, truth and lies also. So please no point going through their gadgets. If there was an accident of the phone been with you at the time a strange discussion came in, please act very matured and un concerning about the situation, hand over the phone in peace and do not start assuming anything that is not in the books, as that will break you down and if not careful, the home as well.

I am bringing this up because what facebook, twitter and every form of social media platform is currently doing to homes is terrible. Women I need you to know and note that sometimes, if not most times, ladies tend to take themselves to these husbands and because Men been naturally gullible, they tend to fall easily and because you are not as hot as well, they are most likely to fall. Even if you are hot sef, they will still misbehave. See, there is usually this very WRONG men's proverb of old that it is always good to mix ogbono soup and Egusi soup, if you get me. So wrong a statement and to me it is also very annoying. Some will even tell you how many wives Solomon had and cuncubines, forgetting Abraham and Adam, always taking that which suites them.


Women you know how emotional you can get, especially when you see stuffs like that, so why not avoid the quarrel. It will be wonderful and cool if he can share his privacy with you. Men it is important to note that if you keep your phone from her, then also don't expect to get through her phone either, as that is so not fair and balanced to your wife. Some men will say but I bought it for her, and I reply so what, if you bought it for her nko, are you the first person to buy his wife a phone, so why are you making it a big deal, when it should not be.


I am not trying to encourage secrecy, neither am I trying to say lie. All I am trying to state here is that couples especially women should allow their husband's privacy be except he shares with you, so that they do not see what will cause them a heart break. Another thing is that if the husband sees that you go through his phone and not just seeing but also nagging about it, he will start giving certain codes to things and even become more smarter about his ways, as only God can change him. You can force him to do certain things, but you cannot stop him and his ways. So women be smart, calm, cool and collected. Have the best Friday ever my Pearl Jewels. ‪#‎PJO‬#

An Idle Man

Hmmmmm ,.. Men do not just sit around the house doing nothing expecting your wife to do all for you and in return all you will do is beat her up or talk down on her as a payment for all she is doing. That means wickedness is written all over you. I remember having talked about this on the group before, but the rate at which it increases gets me thinking what on earth is really going on with our men, especially our Nigerian men. Why would you want to sit doing nothing and expect your wife to take care of you and your kids and yet you cannot even help around the house, you still want to claim been a man, when in the real sense you are not.

Men As The Head

My God, why will a man be so mean to his. Is it because you are older than her or what? Why on earth will you talk to your wife like you are talking to some maid you picked from across the street? What on earth has she done to warrant such anger from you? Have you not done worse? What do you think she is, a toy? Kia men, drop your pride and lead by example if that woman has done something so bad to you that you cannot tolerate, why not tell her straight on than treat her like some piss of shit.

Men Playing Mini 'gods' In Their Homes

Men it's high time you stopped playing God to your wife, because the truth is that you are not her God only her husband. That she is helpless today does not mean she cannot decide to misbehave like you if she wants to. She is trying all what she can just to please you her husband and all you do is play down on her emotions. Some men present themselves un-talkable if there is anything like that to, their wives that her fear, anger, choices, needs etc cannot be adequately communicated to their husband's all because the men see themselves as mini-gods.
Some men do not give their wives the permission to speak as anything she says is meaningless to him, because he knows it all. Then for God's sake the question I ask is why then did you marry her? Is it for show and tell like they do in my kids school or for daily sight seeing? Or what.

My Pearl Jewels,